Conversation with my soul- A poem by me.

My conversation with my SOUL



One day I spoke to my soul
and started a beautiful conversation
words of love, hatred and others
flowed out without hesitation

I asked my soul why was it
that I didn't feel the way I want,
my soul was quiet for some time
and left me in a complete haunt

then after sometime slowly it said
Dear, listen carefully to my voice
your life is based on what you feel
and what you pick when you get a choice.

You can be happy you can be sad
Choose to be happy,it will make u feel good,
choose to remain calm and quiet,
and I assure it will lift your mood.

Don't get disheartened or cry silently
and don't ever let those precious tears flow
Coz god will give you the best you deserve
life is also beautiful, you will someday know.

Then I asked that "why was it
that despite goodness I got the bad"
that despite sharing smiles for others
people and situations made me sad.

Oh! that happens with many of us
slowly said my gentle soul.
God is testing the tolerant you
and how you play your role.

Let things knock you hard
Let things try to break you down
Stand hard and keep the smile up forever,
You will see how your enemies will frown.

They will hate when you smile
they will hate to see you strong
they will try all unpleasent actions
till they all are proved WRONG.

Remember what we sow we shall reap
what we give one day we will receive.
there is a god who knows good and bad.
trust him he will never ever deceive.

I know it may leave one in despair
as it is impossible to control the tears
but remember the rule "this time too will pass"
and that will end your depression and fears.

Do what you makes you feel happy
do what makes you sing and dance
life is to live and not just to exist
you get it once coz there is no second chance.

Give your life a meaning and definition
choose the way you want it to be defined.
See how blessed you get from almighty above
he will be worst to the bad and great to the kind.

- Amit Jain

Tradition or punishment???

Well I m born in a marwari family, a religion known for its high religious activity and people with good business acumen but still there are certain questions that keep on popping like a pop corn in my mind every now and then about its traditions, like why do women have to cover their heads or face veiled with the pallu of their sari in front of elders,it maybe a ritual to show respect but can't these women show respect with ones behaviours or attitude or even speech??? Why do women have to wear sarees once married, when a salwar kameez is far more decent and body covering attire to them, I have questioned this to my near & dear ones and they didn't have any answer, the only answer I got was that this was a ritual and has been continuing since my fore fathers and its better to keep the tradition alive. ( Okkk.. I got that, mouthshut) .

Why the people give a surprise look and are biased at men who drink when most of marwari people have tobacco chewing habit or even smoking, isn't that a taboo as well?? Smoking or Tobbaco is far more injurious than drinking ( I m a teetotaller ok) ; apart from thatwhy do women have to howl on the top of their voices in an act of crying at someones demise they are not even close to but just have to fake the tears and sorrows to create a "MARTAM" scene, well if this would have been awarded all the women would have got OSCAR AWARDS for their awesome breathtaking ( Yes, the crying is really breathtaking I wonder don't they suffer from claustrophobia under the veil with loud shouts and sobs with heart thumping (Overacting by some)) ( Mark my words the scene is extremely funny and yet at the same time you get to see the double faced personalities of our societies at large which is irritating as well---- mixed feelings you know : ( : ). Inaddition the males are no different they sit silent (thats a good point) but talk about the recession that has hit the market, the girls that has eloped and married somebody else out of the caste, the political agenda and solutions (as if they reins of the nation are in their hand) , the highs and lows of stock exchange and the marriage ideas and proposal of the widow or the widower whose partner is lying dead with a breath of gossip air .

Education is something that took a backseat till some years back and still it is not given its due importance by many here, there are countable few who must have completed their graduation and many who must have not even completed their school ( maybe the parents or themselves never thought education was of supreme worth) the only thing that speaks in world is "MONEY" but what is the point of having money when one doesn't have a sense of respect, manners, etiquettes and good attitude to people, because of this people lie about their education etc to get married and the secret is out in the open some years later but by that time the family is already on its rollercoaster ride of companionship.

There is indeed a lot of male dominance to an extent and vice versa in marwaris, men who are married look down on their spouses as if they have done a great favour to them their families and the world in general by proving them wrong at every possible step ; but that proves a lot of insecurity a man has which pricks him by making him feel that his wife is either more talented , well educated or intelligent yet down to earth and some of the women though clad in the typical veiled sarees treat their men and families as their floor mats or even worse, it is really hilarious to see this women behaving like roaring tigers and quarrelling nature with all the censored abuses found under the sun (#$^$% ^$# $T%$# %^$#%^ $#% $%$ #$%$# %@@ @$^#) । Oooooffff । What is really missing in many of them is a sense of respect for each other, and an act of faith and trust.

"Marriage is a beautiful institution provided the students are treated equal in it" I say.

Another cause of concern is the attitude towards a widow and her life, A woman is respected by the society till her man breathes oxygen.. the moment life stops for him the very same woman becomes a stigma, she has to sacrifice not just her choice of clothes, accessories or lifestyle but also the life which becomes mere existence, she is not allowed to participate in religious or family ceremonies, looked down upon if she enters anyplace as if the WIDOW title was chosen by her own will.... if this is the case why a widower is set free, he can re-marry and continue the same life that he had. It is really upsetting to see such a biased attitude in society when India has become a superpower country and the world is growing at jetspeed.

If only housewives were given a chance to work professionally we would have less gossip mongers in between us, less people talking, thinking, gossiping and whispering which is more problematic and time consuming without doing any good either to society or themselves.
One more thing that really is serious in nature for our motherland is that many of marwaris will keep on producing daughters till they are succesfull parents of a male child who will carry on their legacy ahead and make them swell with pride ( A root cause of population explosion), are the girls that bad???? are they a stigma??? Still no surprise that the many such people get kicked by their son in old age times.

A lot of money is poured in religious activity ( which is good to raise funds) but some do it to outdo the others and prove that they rule the roost some of these people don't even think of their family members who don't live independent lives and are mostly under their pressure be it their children, daughter in laws or wives। In rural areas the matters are even worse, Women have to remain indoors most of the time with veil covering them from head to neck, Children who can't even walk on their own feet are tied with the nuptial knot, There are multiple things I or rather WE need an explanation of ( though the above things are not neccesarily practiced in every marwari community) but it happens at most of the places, I hope I m not confused as an ANTI-MARWARI boy after this blog, as I know that every community tradition may have their own pros and cons, but if we as individuals become less myopic and more focussed with a fair comparison of right and wrong and take small steps that we can possibly change within and across then we can very much make a difference। Let me also mention that we have been bestowed with the best religion in the world that preaches ahimsa, equality to all, fairness, honesty, vegetarianism and many good things with scientific reasons practiced long back for good health and well being of oneself and others।Why we as MANKIND not be KIND TO THE MAN (OR A WOMAN) and amend a few man made laws & traditions that are possibly the flaws of a beautiful religion. I hope we don't become silent spectators to this and wait simply for the future generation to face the repercussions.

A poem by me on Child Marriage:

We thought we would play with sand and toys,
we thought we would be treated not like men, but boys.
but one day we were married by our caretakers,
It happened coz we were helpless with no choice.


Amit Jain (Raisoni)