Why the people give a surprise look and are biased at men who drink when most of marwari people have tobacco chewing habit or even smoking, isn't that a taboo as well?? Smoking or Tobbaco is far more injurious than drinking ( I m a teetotaller ok) ; apart from thatwhy do women have to howl on the top of their voices in an act of crying at someones demise they are not even close to but just have to fake the tears and sorrows to create a "MARTAM" scene, well if this would have been awarded all the women would have got OSCAR AWARDS for their awesome breathtaking ( Yes, the crying is really breathtaking I wonder don't they suffer from claustrophobia under the veil with loud shouts and sobs with heart thumping (Overacting by some)) ( Mark my words the scene is extremely funny and yet at the same time you get to see the double faced personalities of our societies at large which is irritating as well---- mixed feelings you know : ( : ). Inaddition the males are no different they sit silent (thats a good point) but talk about the recession that has hit the market, the girls that has eloped and married somebody else out of the caste, the political agenda and solutions (as if they reins of the nation are in their hand) , the highs and lows of stock exchange and the marriage ideas and proposal of the widow or the widower whose partner is lying dead with a breath of gossip air .
Education is something that took a backseat till some years back and still it is not given its due importance by many here, there are countable few who must have completed their graduation and many who must have not even completed their school ( maybe the parents or themselves never thought education was of supreme worth) the only thing that speaks in world is "MONEY" but what is the point of having money when one doesn't have a sense of respect, manners, etiquettes and good attitude to people, because of this people lie about their education etc to get married and the secret is out in the open some years later but by that time the family is already on its rollercoaster ride of companionship.
There is indeed a lot of male dominance to an extent and vice versa in marwaris, men who are married look down on their spouses as if they have done a great favour to them their families and the world in general by proving them wrong at every possible step ; but that proves a lot of insecurity a man has which pricks him by making him feel that his wife is either more talented , well educated or intelligent yet down to earth and some of the women though clad in the typical veiled sarees treat their men and families as their floor mats or even worse, it is really hilarious to see this women behaving like roaring tigers and quarrelling nature with all the censored abuses found under the sun (#$^$% ^$# $T%$# %^$#%^ $#% $%$ #$%$# %@@ @$^#) । Oooooffff । What is really missing in many of them is a sense of respect for each other, and an act of faith and trust.
"Marriage is a beautiful institution provided the students are treated equal in it" I say.
Another cause of concern is the attitude towards a widow and her life, A woman is respected by the society till her man breathes oxygen.. the moment life stops for him the very same woman becomes a stigma, she has to sacrifice not just her choice of clothes, accessories or lifestyle but also the life which becomes mere existence, she is not allowed to participate in religious or family ceremonies, looked down upon if she enters anyplace as if the WIDOW title was chosen by her own will.... if this is the case why a widower is set free, he can re-marry and continue the same life that he had. It is really upsetting to see such a biased attitude in society when India has become a superpower country and the world is growing at jetspeed.
If only housewives were given a chance to work professionally we would have less gossip mongers in between us, less people talking, thinking, gossiping and whispering which is more problematic and time consuming without doing any good either to society or themselves.
One more thing that really is serious in nature for our motherland is that many of marwaris will keep on producing daughters till they are succesfull parents of a male child who will carry on their legacy ahead and make them swell with pride ( A root cause of population explosion), are the girls that bad???? are they a stigma??? Still no surprise that the many such people get kicked by their son in old age times.
A lot of money is poured in religious activity ( which is good to raise funds) but some do it to outdo the others and prove that they rule the roost some of these people don't even think of their family members who don't live independent lives and are mostly under their pressure be it their children, daughter in laws or wives। In rural areas the matters are even worse, Women have to remain indoors most of the time with veil covering them from head to neck, Children who can't even walk on their own feet are tied with the nuptial knot, There are multiple things I or rather WE need an explanation of ( though the above things are not neccesarily practiced in every marwari community) but it happens at most of the places, I hope I m not confused as an ANTI-MARWARI boy after this blog, as I know that every community tradition may have their own pros and cons, but if we as individuals become less myopic and more focussed with a fair comparison of right and wrong and take small steps that we can possibly change within and across then we can very much make a difference। Let me also mention that we have been bestowed with the best religion in the world that preaches ahimsa, equality to all, fairness, honesty, vegetarianism and many good things with scientific reasons practiced long back for good health and well being of oneself and others।Why we as MANKIND not be KIND TO THE MAN (OR A WOMAN) and amend a few man made laws & traditions that are possibly the flaws of a beautiful religion. I hope we don't become silent spectators to this and wait simply for the future generation to face the repercussions.
A poem by me on Child Marriage:
We thought we would play with sand and toys,
we thought we would be treated not like men, but boys.
but one day we were married by our caretakers,
It happened coz we were helpless with no choice.
Amit Jain (Raisoni)
